Wednesday, November 26th, 2008 • 2 Comments on Feeling Thankful
It has been wonderful having Sheri here the past few days. When she’s here, it doesn’t feel like I have a house guest at all—it’s just Sheri. We mesh so well that I don’t feel like I have to entertain her or worry that I’m boring her or wonder what we should do next. We just… are. I suppose that’s why we’ve been friends for over twenty years and why, despite the fact that we only see each other once (or twice) a year, it’s so easy to be around her. It’s only when we’re catching up on the day-to-day stuff that I realize she isn’t as much a part of my life as I would like her to be. We often talk about what it would be like to live closer to each other and I hope some day it will work out. She is a touchstone in my life and it feels as if she should be closer.
I have watched other friendships change and fade in the past couple of years—and I have felt myself closing off. I wear my heart of my sleeve and care too much about other people’s feelings—sometimes to the detriment of my own. Being around Sheri always gives me a certain kind of clarity on my life. She sent me a text message a day or two before she got here, asking if ten days was enough. I responded that it never seems like enough and her response was, “I know! I can never get enough Kris time!” It may be an exaggeration, but it was what I needed at that moment. Don’t we all?
It is a gift to have a friend who over the past twenty years has stretched her Thanksgiving vacation from four days to seven to ten… just to spend more time with me. Who has a sister now living in Chicago and is still coming to my house for Thanksgiving. Who no longer has to tell her family where she’ll be for Thanksgiving because everyone knows she’ll be at my house (no matter where I’m living). It’s a tradition I treasure all the more because I know what effort she goes to in order to make it happen. That’s why I clear my calendar for her and count down the days—our Thanksgiving tradition means as much to her as it does to me. Isn’t that what friendship is about?
Jay is home and Sheri is here and I am very, very thankful.