Tuesday, June 30th, 2015 • No Comments on June: the month in review
Me and my guys at the zoo
2015 is half over! 2015 is half over!
I feel like I should change out my batteries and kick it into high gear now that June is behind me and half of the year is gone. If only I had batteries…
I’m ending this month with a bunch of rejections. Yay! I beat my personal best yesterday– three rejections in one day! Being turned down is never fun, but I really can’t be too disheartened. 1) I’m writing! 2) I’ve had a fair number of sales already this year. 3) Rejections mean (hopefully) that I’m pushing myself outside my comfort zone. I’ve learned the hard way that staying too… comfortable… can make for a bad experience down the road. So, yeah. Rejections. But also acceptances.
I had nine essays and non-fiction pieces published this month, including two new-to-me sites, Scary Mommy and Redbook (which also shares content with Good Housekeeping). Scary Mommy ran my miscarriage essay, To the Doctor Who Told Me I’d Probably Never Have a Child. That one was a nice follow-up to my Narratively essay last month (How to Have Fun When They Say You Can’t Conceive). It’s terrifying to write about such personal experiences, but the reward is in knowing my work resonates with readers who have been through (or are going through) the same thing. It makes the world feel a little bit smaller, you know?
I wrote a couple of fun relationship pieces for Redbook and it’s nice to have a profile page to link to: Kristina Wright @ Redbook. Likewise, I’ve written a couple of new pieces for The Mid, including 5 Things I Miss About the 90s and Life When Your Next Big Birthday Will be Your 50th (which was originally titled Life on the Edge).
And this is my second month as a Mom.me blogger— what a fun gig! Along with wife bonuses, this month I wrote about taking a guilt-free, child-free vacation, pleasing picky eaters and shared what I learned from having two C-sections. It’s fun to write about such a variety of topics, but I honestly never thought I’d be a mom blogger. I’m glad I took look down another path (which might have been facilitated by the huge tree dropped in front of me on the other writing path I was traveling…)
And so, half-way through 2015, I have sold to 8 new markets and had 23 pieces published. That’s almost one a week, which isn’t bad considering I spent one week in Disney World, almost another week in Charleston, one week in the hospital and about another 3 weeks sick and in recovery. Plus, I’ve been writing fiction, too! Plus, I’ve had almost no child care, though I did eke out 37 work hours this month (thanks, wonderful husband and generous babysitter on summer break!). That’s a little less than half what my old monthly work schedule looked like, but I made it work and got a lot of pieces out into the world (and, as mentioned before, a lot of pieces rejected…)
It hasn’t been all work and no play this month (obviously– I have two kids). Summer is here! Oldest kid finished pre-school and will start kindergarten in the fall (wow!) and so we’ve been scheduling play dates and doing fun things. We’ve been to the zoo (twice), seen a couple of $1 movies (yay Regal Summer Movie Express!)– The Boxtrolls (which was maybe darker than I would have liked, but the kids enjoyed) and Paddington (which I loved– teddy bears and London!), gone to the park and played in the sprinkler and kiddie pool and various neighborhood playgrounds.
It’s been adult fun-time this month, too. Jay and I saw Billy Joel in Virginia Beach earlier this month. He’s one of my favorite singers and though he hasn’t had a new album in 20 years, I still love seeing him in concert. I can’t remember if this was the fourth or fifth time, but it was a good, nostalgic concert with my sweetheart. And I’ve been indulging my love of movies and have seen Mad Max (loved it!), Jurassic World (fun! Chris Pratt!) and Spy (Melissa McCarthy is amazing!) so far this summer. There are several more I’m looking forward to– I’d spend all day in a movie theater if someone would let me. Hopefully I’m raising kids who will love movies as much as I do!
In health-related news, after my near death experience in April, I have finally (finally!) gotten the all-clear from all of my various doctors. Yay for good news! The lasting effects of the pneumonia is scar tissue in my lung and (currently) a 69% lung capacity, which we’re going to retest in four months in hopes that I’m still healing and it’ll improve. But overall I’m feeling pretty damned good and lucky to be alive. There’s still much to be written about the experience, but I haven’t gotten there yet.
So onward to July with fireworks and barbecues and Jay’s retirement from the Navy and two weeks of summer camp for the boys (40 hours of writing for me!!) and friends and family coming from all over to visit and celebrate. I don’t know how much writing I’ll get done, but July is promising to be a fantastic month and even if I don’t write as much as I would like, I’ll be having fun. I hope you will, too!
Monday, June 1st, 2015 • No Comments on Wife Bonus Fail
I’d probably buy livestock with my wife bonus
I first read about the “wife bonus” a couple of weeks ago. I was certain that it couldn’t mean what I thought it meant. But yes, it’s exactly what it sounds like: a bonus, presented to a wife (of the uber-rich variety) by her husband. I laughed. Is this even a real thing? I have no idea. But it made me consider what I might buy, should I be given a wife bonus. I don’t think I’m shallow or frivolous enough to appreciate even a middle class wife bonus, because my list includes things like flips-flops and hair clips.
Here’s a snip from my newest piece at Mom.me, 7 Ways a Middle Class Mom Would Spend Her ‘Wife Bonus’
You’ve heard of a “wife bonus,” right? If you haven’t, don’t worry, it’s a relatively new term to most of us. Wednesday Martin’s new book, “Primates of Park Avenue: A Memoir,” has made the wife bonus the hot new phrase of the year (remember when the hot new phrase was “push present?”) and has generated a lot of online chatter.
The wife bonus is a percentage of a husband’s annual bonus that he gives to his wife in recognition for her work in managing the household, staying home to take care of the children and supporting him in his career. The wife uses her bonus to buy whatever her little heart desires, which according to Martin’s book seems to involve things like shoes and purses—really expensive shoes and purses, of course, with tags that say Gucci, Prada, Chanel and Birkin.
Pop over to Mom.me and tell me how you’d spend your wife bonus. Or husband bonus. I’m all about equal opportunity!
The point of my piece is to point out that if the marriage is an equal partnership, then all assets should be shared equally. No need to slap a label on it or make a presentation of it. And if the marriage isn’t an equal partnership– well, why would you want to be in it?
Sunday, May 31st, 2015 • No Comments on May: The month in review
And here we are, wading into summer. After the blur of April, May was a pleasure. But then, any month in which I don’t almost die is a good month, right? And it was my birthday month, which made it all the sweeter. I lived to be 48! Hurrah!
Roadside turtle rescue
I’ve had 41.5 work hours this month– more than any other month this year (and far better than the 7 I managed in April, even if I did have a good excuse.). And I’ve been productive! Many words have been written!
I joined the bloggers at Mom.me this month and have already logged several posts. You can visit my profile and my posts here: Kristina Wright @ Mom.me.
It’s been a fun experience so far, though I’m figuring out there is a big difference between writing essays or stories and blogging for a site where the goal is readership. Of course I love to know my words are being read, that maybe what I write is helpful or entertaining, but I’ve never had to really think too much about how many readers I have. Blogging professionally has shifted my focus somewhat, maybe making me less focused on what I want to write and more focused on what readers want to read. It’s not a bad thing, just different. Like the difference between writing stories and editing anthologies. A good skill to practice.
I’ve also sold a couple more pieces to The Mid this month and one of them went up Friday. My profile is here: Kristina Wright @ The Mid. My newest piece, Is Parenting by Benign Neglect Really Such a Bad Thing?, is a little more serious than the other pieces I’ve written there. It’s fun to have a platform for sharing both my serious opinions and lighter fare. My next essay for The is a nostalgia piece: 5 Things I Miss About the 90s. That was a fun one to write!
My favorite byline this month, and possibly for the entire year, is the essay I sold to Narratively. I love this website, love the editorial staff, love the entire concept of long-form journalism and essays and videos on one beautifully illustrated and photographed website. Utterly charming. And so I was absolutely thrilled that my essay “Where Babies Come From” found a home at Narratively, retitled as How to Have Fun When They Say You Can’t Conceive. It is more personal than anything I’ve ever written and I have found I can’t reread it now that it’s been published. Sex is used as a framework for the story, though it’s not erotic (I don’t think) and it isn’t really about sex at all. The response to it has been phenomenal and I’m so pleased it is at Narratively.
In other news, while I was writing, my publisher was imploding. Cleis Press still exists as an imprint of Start Publishing, though it’s anyone’s guess what that means for my books. I guess I’ll find out in July, which is when my next anthology, Best Erotic Romance of the Year, Volume 1 (formerly Best Erotic Romance 2015) is due to be published. Until then, if you know anyone who needs a job, they’re hiring. I received a lot of condolences over this
train wreck situation, but I’ve had months to get used to the idea that no one is really looking out for me and that I just have to roll with it and take care of my own interests. And so I am. To be honest, warning bells had been ringing in my ears for even longer than that, so I’m mostly just amused by everything that’s happened. (C’mon, the juxtaposition of publisher resigns/hiring publisher links is funny, right?)
Meanwhile, I’m not currently editing any erotica anthologies, but I did write one short story this month for Sacchi Green’s Best Lesbian Erotica 2016. It’s a wonderful series and I hope it will continue to be published for many years to come. I’ll be honored if my story makes the cut.
This month I celebrated my birthday and Mother’s Day quietly with family and friends. We saw the movie Home (mostly amusing because I could see Jim Parsons as Sheldon), went to a baseball game, grilled out and enjoyed the unofficial beginning of summer. Speaking of summer, we took the boys to Busch Gardens last week, beating both the worst of the heat and the crush of the crowd because the kids are still in school. They’re both anxious to ride the big roller coasters, but aren’t quite tall enough for them yet. Probably next year.
I saw the The Age of Adaline this month and enjoyed it, despite a few plot problems. (But Harrison Ford was in it, so I can be very forgiving.) I’m currently reading The Weight of Blood by Laura McHugh, continuing my streak of mysteries and thrillers. I’m really enjoying it. I’ll probably finish it while I’m sitting in the doctor’s office this week, wrapping up the last of my tests and appointments from my illness in April. It’s been a long process, but it’ll be nice to get the “all clear” and know I’m healthy.
We visited Charleston, SC over the Memorial Day weekend. We lived in the area for seven years, but moved away in 2000. It’s incredible how it’s grown. I’m feeling pulled to the area (and so is Jay), and so it was both a trip for fun as well as a trip to explore and consider whether we might want to move back there. With Jay’s retirement from the Navy approaching, the whole world is opening up to us. We can finally choose where we want to live, if we want to move. It’s a big decision– and it will be a major headache if we do move, as we have a house to sell here. But it was a fun, if exhausting, trip and I imagine we’ll go back soon. If I believed in signs (which maybe I do), I would believe that’s where we’re supposed to be. So we’ll see.
Clementine is going to have a lazy summer
And that’s May. Not terribly dramatic, but quietly pleasing. I like that. It’s been a good month for the writer and for the birthday girl. And now I’m looking toward June and wondering what will come. There will be more words, though perhaps not as many as in May, as school will be out and I’ll have both boys full-time again. But we’ll see. I’m getting better at managing a little writing time here and there when I’m home with them. But even if I don’t, there will be summer camp (2 weeks) in July, Jay’s retirement (which means he’ll be home/off for a few weeks before he starts his new job) and then… back to school in August! I’m not in a rush for that, but I am excited about the possibilities when it comes.
I hope you’ve had a lovely May… thanks for reading!