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December, Almost Gone

Thursday, December 29th, 2011 • 1 Comment on December, Almost Gone

I have been neglecting my blog in that end-of-the-year mad rush to complete everything now so I can start the new year fresh. But January 1 is just a date on the calendar and any day is a good day to start fresh, right? I think I go through periodic phases of non-blogging because I want to start over here, too. Start fresh with a new look, a different approach. Changes are coming, but they might take a little while.

We had three house guests in the span of a month and I had some lovely days with a writer friend and some terrific conversations and some not-so-productive work days because of it. The holidays have come and gone—Lucas’s first Christmas (sniffle) and Patrick’s third Christmas (third?!). I’ve been sick, I’ve been frantic, I’ve been sad and happy. We put up the Christmas tree terribly late and I never did send out cards (though I hope to send them out in January). I still have gifts that need to be mailed, too. I mostly let go of my expectations for the holidays this year—I just had a baby less than four months ago, after all! That’s an excuse for at least a little while longer, right?

I got some good writing news that one day I’ll be able to share. It’s a project I’m excited about and that will translate into some really fun writing days in 2012. I am nearly finished with Duty and Desire after a lot of hair pulling and hand twisting. I don’t know if it was the military theme or the time of the year I was looking for submissions or what, but it seemed like no one was interested in writing military erotic romance even if everyone seems to be reading it. Oh well… I’m really pleased with how it’s coming together, even if it has taken longer than I anticipated.

I’m contemplating New Year’s resolutions, goals, plans and trips. 2012 is this bright shiny thing on the horizon with infinite (or nearly infinite) possibilities… and yet I know time will impact me more than it ever has and I will be frustrated by all the things I want to accomplish that fall by the wayside because I run out of time. Sigh. But I would truly rather have too much on my plate than not enough.

I hope your holiday season has been bright and merry. I hope your new year is shaping up to be a thing of wonder and beauty. I hope I will be back in here in a day or two to report on my resolutions and goals. I have hope.

Keep the faith, okay?

Posted by Kristina in Life

Making a List, Checking It Twice

Monday, November 14th, 2011 • 2 Comments on Making a List, Checking It Twice

The last few weeks of 2011 are going to pass by in a blur. First, there are the writing and editing goals and deadlines:

—Finish my NaNoWriMo novel (ha!)
Duty and Desire anthology: read stories, choose stories, write my story, write my introduction, put everything in order, edit, submit…
—Finally get this nonfiction proposal written and submitted
—Write several stories for various January/February deadlines
—Brainstorm new anthology ideas
—Write a nonfiction essay about Patrick and music
—Review two books I have been hauling around for a month
—Write my OGG columns in a timely fashion (for a change)
—Pay Best Erotic Romance authors
—Lineup interviews/reviews/promo for Best Erotic Romance

Then there are the various appointments coming up (or to be scheduled):
—My GP this week to go over various tests I’ve had in the past month
—My gynecologist next week for postpartum follow up
—2 month baby wellness appointment for Lucas
—2 year vaccines and appointment for Patrick
—Massage appointment to use gift certificate I’ve had since last Christmas
—Hair appointment for pre-holiday color touchup and maybe a cut
—Eye appointment/new glasses/glasses adjustment (if I can squeeze it in)

And the holiday festivities:
—Sheri will be here Saturday for our annual 10 days of Thanksgiving fun and feasting
—Patrick’s birthday party to plan and celebrate
—Thanksgiving (plan dinner, prepare dinner, enjoy dinner!)
—Favorite writer friend coming for a brief visit at the beginning of December (yay!)
—Shopping for Thanksgiving dinner, Patrick’s birthday, Hanukkah and Christmas
—Holiday cards (buy, write, address, mail)
—Get pictures printed to put in holiday cards
—Holiday decorating (need Christmas stocking for Lucas)
—New Year’s Eve (?)
—Plan New Year’s Day brunch (?)
—Holiday baking!

And then there’s the general day-to-day stuff and lists… including picking up a new planner so I can start penciling in dates and deadlines for 2012! It’s a busy few weeks ahead and it’ll be 2012 before I can catch my breath, but it should all be pretty good (except the medical stuff we’re trying to resolve). Lucas seems to be sleeping through the night (8 hours the past two nights), I’m finally getting over whatever cold virus I’ve had for the past week and things are generally falling into a rhythm with two babies in the house. Patrick has been a little off lately (with the same cold I had, I think, and maybe teething?) and very clingy with me (something he’s never been), but it’s been manageable and I’m hoping he’ll be his usual cheerful self through the holidays. I’m excited about sharing his birthday and Christmas with him this year when he is more likely to understand the celebrations. Having Lucas sleep through the night is really going to be icing on the holiday cake.

Of course, the last thing on my to do list for 2011 is making my list of goals and resolutions for 2012. So far, plans include a trip to the UK, a new tattoo, some sort of real exercise plan and maybe guitar lessons. More to come!

Posted by Kristina in Life

I Feel a Cold Coming On

Tuesday, November 8th, 2011 • No Comments on I Feel a Cold Coming On

My mind is all over the place today. I can’t concentrate on my NaNoWriMo novel. I was doing some research on Tumblr, looking at pictures and such that might inspire the book, and came across some disturbing stuff. My NaNoWriMo book is based on my story erotic vampire story “Cutter” which is about, you guessed it, a vampire and a cutter. Fictionalizing someone who cuts as a vehicle for a vampire story is one thing—but reading about real cutters and their pain (and seeing some of the pictures they post) on Tumblr as part of the research for what is—essentially—a piece of fluff fiction is… upsetting.

Am I being too cavalier in writing an erotic urban fantasy about a character who cuts? I don’t know. It’s not like I’m so far removed from the character I write about. I do understand the psychology behind cutting and the emotional pain associated with it. I’m not trying to make light of the issue, but maybe my story romanticizes it?  Again, I don’t know. Argh. I’m writing fantasy, but where is the intersection between writing and responsibility? I don’t know, I don’t know, I don’t know. So, I’m kind of not in the mood to work on the book right now. I think maybe I need to skip around the cutting and see if I can get a better feel for the characters. It’s supposed to be a darkly erotic book and I’m just not feeling it right now.

I am, however, feeling like I’m getting sick and that makes my mind go in a dozen different directions instead of focusing on one thing. I don’t have ADD, but sometimes my imagination finds connections in things and as I ponder one thought I end up chasing another thought down the rabbit hole… My brain is off onto tangents about body image and sexuality and what is erotic (and what isn’t) and perceptions of desire and age and desire and size. I don’t know if any of these things will find their way into this book I’m writing or if I’ll follow some of these threads in something else I’m writing. I just know that right now I need to find some focus and write some words somewhere.

Just a few links to show you where my mind is at the moment, because I clearly don’t have the words to express my thoughts coherently:

Only Cute Chubby Girls (Tumblr, possibly NSFW)

I’m the Scary Model in That Awful Ashley Madison Ad (Jezebel)

Sex Is Not the Enemy (Tumblr, NSFW)

The comment thread for Legitimizing Erotica (My column last week at Oh Get A Grip!)

Boobs, Bras, Sex, Cougars and Sluts (Rita Wilson at Huffington Post)

Posted by Kristina in Life, Writing

I'm a writer, editor, blogger, mama, wife and coffee lover.